Rants courtesy of RedNeckGirl
Mindtwister is ill and hasn't been at work or able to blog for a while........but I expect him back tonight or tomorrow :) I wanna tell him to get better soon and thank him for letting me guest blog here @ Rants About it All.
So here it is......I have two Rants....oh yeah only been gone from the blog scene for a little over a week and I already have two rants. First off.....I was told Friday that they are moving my son from the class he's in back to the one that he hated (and cried everyday when I took him). The teacher that told me is NOT his regular teacher and when I spoke to his teacher today she said that the other girl wasn't supposed to tell me; the regular teachers are supposed to discuss that with the parents. She said that it's not set in stone and they don't know when the move will happen. I told her that we could try it but that I am apprehensive because that class isn't as structured as his class and he does MUCH better in a structured environment and with a strict schedule. Friday I was really upset and spent all weekend thinking about the move and what it will possibly mean for my son. Today I feel a little better because I get the feeling that his teacher will try her best to keep him in her class.....and that's all I can ask of her.
My second rant is actually the second part of a previous rant...confusing but true. Some of you may remember my post titled at odds....where I discussed a few members of my family attacked my parenting and made me feel as if my children were bad etc. Well I find out last night that there was more said than I originally knew........one member of my family actually accused me and my ex of letting other people raise our children.....this angers me on so many levels....first of all it was said behind my back so I couldn't even defend myself and secondly this person is hardly ever around.....how can he judge me? I see him for a few hours every couple of months and IF we actually talk....it's about superficial bullshit nothing of real substance.......he doesn't know me, my situation, or my kids. I have to remind my youngest son what this persons name is......so that should tell you how often we see him. Before my kids were in school/daycare my sister kept them while I worked. She was in college and needed the money and I HAD to work (if I could afford to be a stay @ home mom I would) I needed a sitter that I could trust. She is very close to my kids by choice not because I push them off on her.......my sister and I have always been close.....we've been through a lot together and I've always tried to help her and be there for her whenever I can and she does the same for my kids. I appreciate everything she and my parents have done for me but they have NOT raised my kids......my ex and I have......we are their parents and anyone that really knows me, knows the kind of mother I am and what my children mean to me. I know I shouldn't let what this person said get to me.....I am better than that.....but I used to really look up to him; so I guess neither of us REALLY knows the other......and now....it will stay that way.
In closing.....thanks for reading sorry to b*tch so much but I do feel better now.
Hugs and Love,
Brandy
So here it is......I have two Rants....oh yeah only been gone from the blog scene for a little over a week and I already have two rants. First off.....I was told Friday that they are moving my son from the class he's in back to the one that he hated (and cried everyday when I took him). The teacher that told me is NOT his regular teacher and when I spoke to his teacher today she said that the other girl wasn't supposed to tell me; the regular teachers are supposed to discuss that with the parents. She said that it's not set in stone and they don't know when the move will happen. I told her that we could try it but that I am apprehensive because that class isn't as structured as his class and he does MUCH better in a structured environment and with a strict schedule. Friday I was really upset and spent all weekend thinking about the move and what it will possibly mean for my son. Today I feel a little better because I get the feeling that his teacher will try her best to keep him in her class.....and that's all I can ask of her.
My second rant is actually the second part of a previous rant...confusing but true. Some of you may remember my post titled at odds....where I discussed a few members of my family attacked my parenting and made me feel as if my children were bad etc. Well I find out last night that there was more said than I originally knew........one member of my family actually accused me and my ex of letting other people raise our children.....this angers me on so many levels....first of all it was said behind my back so I couldn't even defend myself and secondly this person is hardly ever around.....how can he judge me? I see him for a few hours every couple of months and IF we actually talk....it's about superficial bullshit nothing of real substance.......he doesn't know me, my situation, or my kids. I have to remind my youngest son what this persons name is......so that should tell you how often we see him. Before my kids were in school/daycare my sister kept them while I worked. She was in college and needed the money and I HAD to work (if I could afford to be a stay @ home mom I would) I needed a sitter that I could trust. She is very close to my kids by choice not because I push them off on her.......my sister and I have always been close.....we've been through a lot together and I've always tried to help her and be there for her whenever I can and she does the same for my kids. I appreciate everything she and my parents have done for me but they have NOT raised my kids......my ex and I have......we are their parents and anyone that really knows me, knows the kind of mother I am and what my children mean to me. I know I shouldn't let what this person said get to me.....I am better than that.....but I used to really look up to him; so I guess neither of us REALLY knows the other......and now....it will stay that way.
In closing.....thanks for reading sorry to b*tch so much but I do feel better now.
Hugs and Love,
Brandy
posted by RedNeckGirl at 10:28 AM
6 Comments:
You know the saying .. "it takes a village to raise a child" ? I don't fully believe it in the context it is usually said in, but I do believe that it takes all the people in our lives, to form and develop the person our children grow up to be. They glean many things from each individual they encounter. I'm sorry you have someone coming down on your parenting .. that simply is NOT fair to say if they don't spend time with you enough to see it's not true. Yes, others will dicipline, love, care for and nurture our children, but when it comes down to it .. it's us parents that call the shots. Stand tall and proud of the job you and your ex have done. Your children sound like real sweethearts that will continue to grow and mature and spread their wings.
By the way .. it's nice to see you back, guest spotting. :)
YAY!! YOU'RE HERE!!! (((HUG)))
Okay, first of all, why would they move your son? He's doing well in that class, why would the put him back into a class where he isn't comfortable? That makes no sense. I hope the teacher does try her best to keep him with her and BOO! on the sub for telling you stuff she shouldn't! Some people like to overstep their bounds and talk about the things that would make the best gossip and that's not cool when it's something personal like that.
Second, WTF?!? That just sucks! I can one up you on it though. My BROTHER, the only one I have, told me to my face that if I went back to work that I would be letting strangers raise my daughter and that made me a shitty mom. Yep, he said that to my face. It hurt, deep, so I know how you feel and to have it said behind your back? That's just low and cowardly. Everyone comments on how good my daughter is and they all know that I HAD to work because of my divorce but that I put in the extra time with her. In the end, you're the one they look up to, listen to, and grow from. So they spend a few hours a day with someone else, you are there at the heart of it all. And from what I have read about your kids and what I know about you, you have done a spectacular job. I'm a Momma, through and through, and I think you are, too. You don't get Momma status by being part time in your kids lives.
Keep kicking ass, loving your children and MT and being the beautiful and amazing woman you are!! HUGS!!
MT!! I hope you feel better!! Sorry to fill up your comments talking to RG! HUGS for you, too!!
Sorry to hear Mindtwister is sick, but glad to see you *Hugs*
First, I hope your son is able to stay in his current class-- moving him will only set him back, and isn't right-- fight it all ya can, girl.
As for your family, they'll twist that knife in your back harder and faster than anyone, anywhere. All that matters is that you love your children, and are rasing them the best you can. That's all anyone can ask. If they don't like it, they can kiss your ass! *hugs*
Hi Brandy!
That person is an ass,plain and simple. Geesh!
I'd be pretty mad about that too,Grrr. I'm with Rach,it's not a bad thing to be exposed to different people throughout their lives. Kids learn so much and I think it's great when they have different people to pick stuff up from. Its not like you're handing them over to just anybody.
And even if you were..you're the parent,not that doofus,lol
I hope your kiddo doesn't have to move:)
get well MT!!
wow, a rant! Im glad to see you!! even if its a rant.
But, your rant is a good one. I HATE people like the person you described here that was running their mouth. People like that do not have a clue.....they also SUCK.
I hope everything works out w/ your son's class and he doesnt get moved. It is hard trying to do what is best for our kids then being blindsided by people who THINK they know better or because it works into their schedules better or just because THEY CAN.
I hope MT gets better ASAP :)
glad to see you RNG
You know what I think of this. I think it is wrong of him to voice an opinion about something he has no clue about. I'm sure if he had an inkling about the way things really are, he might feel bad for saying what he said, but you never know. I think he's gonna get a rude awakening one day.
Thanks for rallying everyone up to wish me well. You know I'm always here for you baby! I Love You!
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